By Elijah Mutabuza
We all know how it is. When you like a new guy, it’s excruciatingly difficult to stop thinking about him all the time, whether you’re visualizing his gorgeous eyes, his brilliant smile, or his to-die-for body. If you’ve had the chance to interact with the object of your affection, you probably are unable to stop daydreaming about his captivating personality, either. If you and this guy have been out together, and are headed in the direction of a relationship, this is no problem at all.
However, if you barely know the guy, he’s dating someone else, or he’s simply made it clear that he’s not interested in you that way, obsessively thinking about him could take over your life in a very negative manner.
How to stop obsessing over a guy
No one wants to be all wrapped up in someone or something that they can’t have, as that’s just totally frustrating. Fortunately, if you’re in this situation, there are some fairly easy ways for you to free your mind off this elusive guy. If you follow the advice below, he may only wander into your thoughts occasionally, instead of doing a relentless dance across your brain and distracting you from the things that are truly important in your life.
Don’t “stalk†him on social media
If you’re harboring affection for a certain guy, you probably know how to find his Facebook, Twitter, even if you’re not yet friends with him on these sites *unless, of course, he happens to be one of those rare people who never use social media, in that case, you’re lucky*.
This may seem like a familiar scenario to many of you – you tell yourself that you’ll just take a quick peek at his information, but before you know it, you’ve spent hours going through all his posts, saving a few of his best pictures on your hard drive and memorizing his previous girlfriends’ names.
Unfortunately, stalking someone on social media is one of the quickest ways to fuel a budding obsession with that person.
Have you ever heard the expression, “out of sight, out of mind?†Well, if you want to stop this guy from unknowingly invading your brain at every waking moment, stop looking at his pages.
Spend time with other guys
Another way to stop yourself from obsessing over a particular guy is by allowing yourself to realize that he’s not the only attractive member of the male “species†out there. It’s not necessary that you start dating a bunch of different guys, but make sure you interact with a variety of them on a regular basis, so you’ll have others to think about besides the object of your obsession.
As we are romance-oriented creatures by nature, guys may still take up the majority of your thoughts, but at least you won’t be completely stuck on one who may never be yours.
If you don’t come across any interesting guys in your day-to-day life, consider taking an interest in the life of a sexy male celebrity. Having an obsession with a celeb is less dangerous to your psyche than being obsessed with someone you’ve actually met, as you likely realize that there’s only a small chance that you’ll ever meet the celeb, let alone date him.
Spend more time with friends and family
One of the best ways to overcome an annoying obsession of any kind is to spend tons of time with people you love, whom you know love you, doing activities you enjoy. When it comes to guys, we women often start obsessing about a guy in hopes that he will someday cure our loneliness by giving us the attention that we so crave and desire.
However, what we don’t realize is that our friends and family members may be able to fill that void we feel inside when we’re alone. Sure, they’re not romantic partners, but sometimes a warm hug can make you feel just as good as a make out session would.
You must remember though, when you hang out with your family and friends, not to mention the guy you like very often. If you do so, you’ll just be ensuring that you’ll never forget about him, and you’ll eventually get on your loved ones’ nerves, too.
Read interesting books
Obsessing over someone, going over and over every detail about them in your mind is something that clearly takes a great deal of brainpower. That means that if your mind is completely occupied by something else, it won’t have enough energy left over to obsess any longer, and your thoughts about a desired man will automatically drop out of the picture.
Reading is an activity that is enjoyable, but requires a great deal of mental effort. If you really want to abolish that guy from your mind, you need to read, read, and then read some more.
When choosing a book, it’s best to pick one that’s very plot-driven. Unless you have supreme mental abilities in comparison to the rest of us, as you follow the adventures of stimulating fictional characters, you won’t be able to concentrate on much of anything else.
Whatever you do, do not choose a book that contains a great deal of s3xual content, such as 50 Shades of Grey, since that will just remind you of the attractive individual whom you should not be thinking of.
There you are good to go my ladies!!!
Love Doc
